Updated: Jan 13
If you witnessed someone telling your loved ones that they were stupid, or useless, or didn’t have what it takes, what would you do? What would you think?
I’m guessing you would intervene, I’m guessing you would try and change the message, I’m guessing you would think it was wrong, and hurtful, and you would show some compassion for your loved one.
So what do you do when it’s the voices in your head that are telling you that you’re not good enough? Do you intervene? Can you find some self compassion? Some authentic positives about yourself?
Can you be your own loved one, your own friend, your own cheer squad?
If your answer is no, then it might be really beneficial for you to talk it through with someone.
Finding a way to be able to offer yourself the sort of compassion, kindness and love that you give to others can provide you a level of awareness and understanding of yourself that leads to some better choices, and some more control of your day to day life.
This work can be done alone using books, podcasts, YouTube, or by investigating it gently with a loved one you really trust. Alternatively you might choose to find a therapist who can offer you some professional help to uncover who you are and why you are so hard on yourself.
However you choose to do it, it really is worth investigating your self-compassion.
Say it out loud!
I am ok! I am enough!